10 Proven Ways To Keep The Fire Burning After Having A Baby.
Just because you did your humanly duty by procreating doesn’t mean you and your lady should be hands off from now on. Yes, it can be hard to get back into the swing of things with all the interruptions and the fact that looking after a baby and working is very tiring, but don’t let that end your relationship with the mother of your child. Here are ten tips from AskMen writers who are dads and want to help you maintain a healthy relationship with the woman in your life.
Remember that raising a child is not about taking turns. It is
actually an opportunity for you as a couple to strengthen your own bond
while you work together with the child. Take those strolls as a family.
Handle your chores as a family. Get the groceries as a family. Go to bed
as a family. And when the child’s asleep, relish your time as a couple.
Your baby mama will not feel herself right after the baby. She’ll feel sluggish and out of shape and definitely not sexy. Surprise her with flowers, tell her how beautiful she looks, give her butt a nice squeeze when you walk by -- anything that will make her think of herself as anything but a milk machine and spit up rag.
Since balancing work, household chores and sleep is challenging as a parent, the prospect of dividing your time with the child always sounds appealing. When she’s going to take the child out for a stroll, you think it’s the best opportunity to get some work or chores done and vice versa. Resist that temptation as much as you can.
Going to the movies, heading to brunch -- all of it is kind of on hold. But that doesn’t mean you give up on date night from the beginning. Before a babysitter comes into play, you can have a date night at home when your baby takes his/her nap. Curl up to a movie with a glass of Dewar's, or make a romantic dinner -- anything to just escape from being mom and dad for just a few moments and be husband and wife.
6. Be Patient And Willing
Finding quality, intimate time with your partner will be hard when raising children. Be patient and persuasive with sex. Understand that your partner’s libido may be diminished after lack of sleep, nourishment and the sound of a crying child. If you’re frustrated down south, don’t show it. Just be sensitive.
Being patient doesn’t mean you give up on trying because that would be even more depressing for your partner. She could misinterpret your apathy as diminished attraction. Always be flirtatious, whether it’s through sexting from work or whispering sweet nothings in her ear while the child is distracted. At some point, you both will score.
4. Beware. You’ll Be More Attractive
It may be hard to get your head around, but becoming a father instantly makes you WAY more attractive to women. I know, weird, right? Jerry Seinfeld called it the “stench of commitment.” Try carrying your baby through the grocery store and prepare to be amazed how many smiles and winks you get from blushing females. Not that you’d be sleazy enough to capitalize on this new-found sexiness, but well, everyone likes to feel wanted…
3. Show Your Appreciation
Always remind your partner how much you appreciate her. Raising
children is a long, grueling thankless job. You are solely responsible
for making your partner feel valued for everything she does. Take cues
from Steven Nelms, who in a viral blog post
did the math and realized that his stay-at-home wife’s contributions to
the household were valued at over $75K. “I can’t afford my wife,” Nelms
wrote. Neither can you. Let her know that.
Try your hardest to remember that this new mother you’re sleeping
next to is also your hot wife. Sex on the regular will definitely slow
up, but don’t forget how you made that new baby.
1. Remember That Your Partner Is Not Just A Mom
Despite the fact that being a mom takes up all her time, don’t define
your partner solely by that role. Your child makes her feel like a mom
at every moment, so it’s up to you to treat her like the strong, sexy
and independent woman that she is. So while you should still show
appreciation for her maternal skills, you also need to reinforce her
confidence in other areas. Compliment her on those same qualities you
fell for before she became a mom. Let her know that she’s still got it.
Its a choice but its right........
Its a choice but its right........
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